The Dangers Of Online Conmunity
By Ben Sixsmith
The internet benefits a lot of people who have sought like-minded acquaintances, friends, and even lovers — yet it is a dangerous place. All across social media are what I call “conmunities”: not quite cults, lacking their organization and militancy, yet still drawing fragile, desperate people into exploitative relationships based on false hope, narcissism, and greed. Features often include:
- Charismatic leaders who act as mentors on the basis of selective information, rather than the more rounded perspective one might gain from acquaintance in real life.
- Clear hierarchies of status and influence, based more on popularity than expertise, experience, or achievements.
- Underacknowledged financial interests.
- Claims to exclusive truth.
- Severe resistance to criticism.
- “Us against the world” dynamics.
- Reinforcement of destructive behavior.
- Relationships based more on shared beliefs and preferences than shared experiences.
These features make conmunities vulnerable to herdlike conformity, financial or narcissistic exploitation, and latent social ties based on shared opinions, taste, and language that are hard to transform into trust, cooperation, and emotional fulfillment.